‘For the Love: Fighting for Grace In A World of Impossible Standards’: A Book Review


If you want a book that will make you laugh and think, Jen Hatmaker’s latest book ‘For the Love: Fighting for Grace in a World of Impossible Standards’ is just that book. And this book is also for anyone who has ever struggled with feeling like they don’t measure up. Wait….isn’t that most of us? Funny and thought provoking, ‘For the Love’ has been rated as the number one best seller in Christian living on Amazon.

Jen Hatmaker is a mother to five children by birth and adoption, a pastor’s wife, popular speaker, blogger, best-selling author and star of the popular series My Big Family Renovation on HGTV.  She is known for her books 7: An Experimental Mutiny Against Excess and Interrupted: When Jesus Wrecks Your Comfortable Christianity. She is also known for her tell-it- like-it-is authentic, real and humorous writing style.


Hilariously and insightfully written, this book is about people. And it’s about how we need the grace of God to deal with the challenge of fulfilling part of God’s mandate for us, which is to love others well. Refreshingly honest, Jen Hatmaker tackles challenges that many women face today across different life domains, such as marriage, parenting, friendship and church life. She reveals how to:

  • Break free of guilt and shame by dismantling the unattainable Pinterest perfect life.
  • Learn to engage our culture’s controversial issues with a gracious approach.
  • Be able to love and release the burden of always being right.
  • Identify the tools you already have to develop real-life, all-in, ‘know-my-junk-but-love-me-anyway’ friendships.
  • Escape impossible standards for parenting and marriage by accepting the standard of “mostly good’.

This book was a fun read. It had moments of depth, and moments of shallowness. I especially appreciated the chapter on missions, and I would highly recommend this to anyone contemplating a short term missions trip. This book covered a wide range of topics and felt a little disjointed at times. Liberatingly honest, the strength of this book is in the way that it conveys truth and wisdom about serious issues while remaining lighthearted. Whether you are a Christian or not, single, married, a mother, a professional, perhaps you are someone who has been hurt in church, there is something for everyone in ‘For the Love’. An affirming book for all women, renewing their value and worth.


Some favourite quotes from ‘For the Love’

Folks who thrive in God’s grace give grace easily, but the self-critical person becomes others-critical.

-We need to quit trying to be awesome and instead be wise.

-There’s a difference between humility and insecurity, and self-effacement does no one any favors.

-How many trot out that tired cliché—“I’m waiting for God to open a door”—and He’s all, “I love you, but get going, Pumpkin,” because usually chasing the dream in your heart looks surprisingly like work.

-A good parent prepares the child for the path, not the path for the child.

-I worry we consider “success” to be a product of the parent’s diligence more than the child’s.

-Lean honestly into every hard place, each tender spot, because truthfulness hurts for a minute, but silence is the kill shot.

-Loneliness can be a prison, but we have keys. You needn’t wait for someone to open the bars.

For more information, visit JenHatmaker.com

  • I received a free copy of this book as part of the Booklook Bloggers Programme. I was not required to write a positive review.

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